"Old Man" George, who peed on that expensive rug...
Meet this “old man” George. George doesn’t have a unique problem, but he does have a big problem. How many cats do you know of who pee on expensive rugs? It’s like they know what is most valuable, and then pee on it! Probably quite a few, right?
George’s big problem is that if he doesn’t stop peeing on the rug, his human mom (abbreviated to HM) is considering euthanizing him. This beautiful cat is 12 years old and has lived with her since 5 months old. I was not going to let that happen.
A mutual friend of ours informed George’s HM that I might be able to help her. When one is desperate for a solution, you are willing to try "that lady who can hear animals". Once I heard the above information and saw George’s picture (and nothing more), I immediately went to work. This is the exact type of situation that tugs at my heartstrings and what I am developing my skills in.
I meditated to Beethoven and Mozart, said a prayer and then searched for George through my heart. Immediately, I was hit with the following feelings: Desperation. Raging Anger. Stubborn. Passionate. Exhausted from fighting. Desire to live.
Does your human confuse you, George? I asked. I visualized him shedding a tear. Our animals often find our behavior confusing, which I can understand since a lot of humans find animal behavior confusing as well. Lost in translation, right? Let’s fix that.
George stated a few facts, to get us started.
HM confirmed she has lived in a 1 story home for many years, he was an only indoor cat, he used to sit on her lap a lot, does free-feed dry food, he does have covered litter box quite full of clay litter and it sits near a closet. The front door has a dark stain, so I suppose it looked purple to George and me! HM also said she was about to purchase a heated blanket this coming week, and found it shocking that George knew! My response, what cat wouldn't be excited when they catch wind of a heated blanket?! :-)
HM confirmed that George had blue eyes, she used to have a rocking recliner, she has many trinkets andshe does indeed have a 2 year old grandson! She said the two get along wonderfully. She also had a white bedspread, that was replaced just recently. George noticed!
Gabby was one of HM's previous cats, who passed away. I heard it originally as "Daddy". HM had been talking on the phone with her son about their home renovations, hence why George thought the house was for sale.
HM confirmed she has Diabetes and switched medications very recently. Yes, animals know when we are sick and can often identify what it is. HM confirms that she spends only about 3 days out a week with friends. I suppose George thinks that's too much!
HM confirmed that her home has a bay window overlooking birds outside. Yes, some animals know how long they will live. Some do not.
Boy, George had a lot to share when I asked about the rug.
George had quite a bit to share about his HM, too.
George's HM said that he sits at her feet quite often, but she never really noticed before. She also confirmed that she doesn't laugh often, either.
At this point, it was quite obvious that George felt severely unappreciated and ignored. He was mad, and decided the only way to get attention was to pee on something valuable! After speaking with his HM in depth, it became clear that she had a lot going on in her life. She also used to have more cats, all of whom have since passed. Unknowingly, George simply was the lonely caboose to a long list of priorities. Once his HM realized this, she quickly admitted that she hadn’t been giving George much attention. She even mentioned that he had been crying at night. A lightbulb went off, and George’s HM decided that she could change this situation quickly by changing her actions.
So, the question is what do we do? How do we stop George from eliminating on the rug?
Here are the suggestions that I gave to George’s HM. I wanted to address George as an instinct-driven cat, as well as a spiritual being. In order to stop George from peeing on the rug, we need to address both sides of the spectrum.
- Put a litter box right over the place he pees on rug. Slowly move litter box towards original litter box, only once no accidents occurred. During this time period, make sure to pet him a lot, say “I love you.”, greet him when you come home, pay attention when he stands at your feet, etc.
- Take him to the vet to check for Diabetes. Have his liver and intestines thoroughly checked.
- Listen, honor and act upon his feelings:
- give pets when greeted for 5 minutes when you come home
- verbally tell him “I love you.” much more
- verbally tell him about your day
- encourage him to sit in your lap, as a “lap cat"
- sit by bay window with him and talk about the birds
- stroke him more
- look him in the eyes and smile at him often
The result? An email like this from George's mom the next day. A happy home again. Success!